FOCUS: Past, Present, and Future

It’s a New Year! To say “we are blessed” is an understatement. I am pleased to usher you all into this New Year!

We are too concerned with what was, and what will be… Yesterday is history, Tomorrow’s a mystery, but today is a gift, that is why it is called the present. Focusing on the future will make us anxious. Dwelling in the past, we are bound to fall down. We will feel nostalgic and will lose the precious moments from present, hence, the only reality is present and our focus should be to make it beautiful. Amen?

Lao Tzu, the great Chinese Philosopher, made a profound statement – “If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present”. The past is exactly that, it has passed. However, if we focus on the future, it will create stress in our lives.

I am very sure that some questions are being raised in your mind. Am I to just “forget” the past as if nothing happened? Hmmmmmn… How can I even “forget” what happened in 2018 so quickly? Smiles… And how will you tell me not to think about the future?

Friend, I never hinted all these. So, those questions are just distractions and invalid. Why? The word here is FOCUS and not “look” or “remember”. Let’s move on!

Your Life is likened unto a car with a windscreen and rear view mirrors. The rear mirrors help you to view what is behind (past) and the windscreen help you to see what is here (present) and what is ahead (future). So, would you focus your attention on the rear mirror or on the windscreen? Hmmmmmn!

Friend, would you keep basking in the euphoria of your past journeys and take your focus on what’s in front of you? 2018 has either obeyed or disobeyed. We cannot change what happened. But 2019 is here. Let’s rewrite our story!

Have you ever considered the reality that the windscreen of your car (life) is at least 20 times bigger than the rear mirror? The rear mirror is very small, and typically you should spend less than 5% of your driving time looking behind you. However, your windscreen is huge, because you must have clarity and visibility in front of you to be able to drive your car and arrive at your destination safely.

The number one rule of driving is to always keep your eyes on the road, and a clear windscreen is extremely important.

2018 is gone. The past years are gone. We cannot and should not dwell on those things that happened to us, whether good or bad, because that will deprive us the opportunity to deal with the present. Drivers who look back through their rear mirror instead of focusing on what’s ahead of them will continue to run off the road, hit the potholes and crash into adversity.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not undermining what horrible things might have occurred in your life, but I refuse to allow you to believe that those things make up who you are as a person.

So… What do you do with your past? Try to “remember” –not focus on– what has passed. And try to learn from it. Apply your learning to the benefit of yourself and others, when you can. If you can’t, you can’t. Don’t worry about it. Life continues, no matter what. Life is not fair or unfair, cruel or kind. Simple. Not simple? Okay.

The past is good for only two things: Entertainment and Instruction. All other uses (as well as too long a time spent in entertainment) are corrosive to the human soul. One needs to CONSIDER the future... it’s hard to get where you're going, if you don't know where you want to go. But one must learn to appreciate the dynamic nature of life. What do I mean? No matter how hard you look, eventually the future will throw you… Which brings us to the only place in which you can live: NOW – the present!

Friend, can we break it down as: 80% in the present, 15% the future and 5% in the past? We know that the past is unreliable, so focusing too much on it can lead to trouble. The future will always be there, so it is not necessary to put all of one’s focus on it. The present and result of present actions will produce the future that one is seeking. Hence, time thinking about the future needs to be thinking about whether present actions are helping bring about the future of your choice.

Thanks for reading!